MY PERSONAL STORY

I have decided to share my story with you because the entire foundation of Tantra is about being true to yourself, removing the mask that so many of us wear for fear of judgement or unacceptance for who we really are, I have no such concern not because I have an ego which I certainly don’t as anyone who truly knows me will happily testify, but because after many years of making decisions to please others I have realised that I wish to live a life that is authentic and true and find I can only do this in my personal and professional life though being completely honest and consistently practicing with integrity and respect both for myself and my clients.

Therefore as a result I hope by reading this you will gain an insight not only into Tantra itself but also who I am as a therapist and a person, as if you choose to experience a treatment for yourself that will be helpful to see if our intentions and energy are compatible. Tantra for me is not just about giving someone pleasure that’s only a small part, my work involves me being a Counsellor, Teacher, Guide and sometimes Mentor. Tantra is what I live and breathe, it is my greatest love and passion and something I feel has and always will be a part of who I am and I feel that is reflected in the person I am and the treatments I provide.

My exploration into the world of Tantra began 7 years ago when a work colleague suggested that I may be interested in attending an open evening, if I’m completely honest at that time I was a little sceptical as many people are, but I also felt rather curious as my only insight at that point was the sexual preferences of Sting which did intrigue me to some degree and so along I went expecting to learn some fun techniques that I could incorporate into a relationship in the future. Little did I know then how profound that evening would become and the huge impact it would come to have on my life both personally and professionally.

I remember sitting completely transfixed and fascinated this was nothing like I had expected and went so much deeper then I could have ever imagined. The actual meaning of the word Tantra is to weave or expand and to basically embrace life on your own personal journey of expansion and self-realization. Practices include yoga, meditation and exploring the subtle energies within our body which lead to enhance our spiritual growth, sexuality and physical wellbeing. This in turn affects our own connection to the world and how we view it as well as our connection to others. The practices of Tantra have been developed over thousands of years and it is in fact an ancient Hindu custom which if practiced correctly and authentically can lead to a greater degree of intimacy and harmony in our personal lives not only with our own selves but our loved ones also.

There are different forms of Tantra the main ones being Red, White ,Pink and Black which can cause confusion as to the true intention so what are they and what do they represent? Red Tantra is focussed on sensuality and sexuality, increasing awareness within your own body and with a partner to experience pleasure and boundaries .White Tantra is oriented towards a spiritual approach such as yoga and meditation, Pink Tantra is connected to the heart and is a combination of Red and White Tantra and Black Tantra is the manipulation of sexual energy in order to control another human being for personal gain which can often be financial or emotional. Black Tantra is where negative beliefs stem from and where Tantra can so easily go from something so pure and beautiful to becoming corrupt and toxic. It is not the practice of Tantra itself which can get corrupted that always has its basis on healing and a connection from the heart, it is the person practicing or their intention which can so easily pollute the beauty of this life changing and unforgettable practice. However it is important to note that Black Tantra can also involve S and M between two consenting adults and if that is the case then that is obviously an important exception.

In my life and work I only practice Red, Pink and White Tantra and through my own healing I have never experienced something so powerful and life changing, since my personal journey began my entire being and internal make up has been completely transformed, through previous struggles with Anxiety which I developed due to long-term emotional and physical trauma and abuse when I was younger I had reached some very dark places emotionally, I had no self-esteem and had lost all sense of who I was and it was through my personal exploration and work that I was able to see the light again and for that very reason I will always be very defensive to protect the reputation of Tantra as I’m only too aware of the difference it has made not only to my own life but too the lives of all those I have been fortunate enough to share this remarkable gift with. The confident and self-assured woman you will meet and who I am today was not always that way and it is for that reason that I greatly enjoy connecting with others in the hope that through what I have learned due to my own experiences I can help them too not only heal but find that inner love and peace that is so essential to all aspects of our wellbeing.

I’m a light worker and healer and my intention will always be too help make a difference to other people’s lives and if I can help others to achieve what I have in my own life then how wonderful would that be, even if the work I do is seen as slightly unconventional does it really matter if the end result is to improve how someone feels about themselves and the relationships they share with others? This is why I do this work it is so exciting and fulfilling for me to become a part of someone’s personal journey and more importantly I really love what I do, every connection I make is completely unique and every treatment is different. For me there is no greater privilege then to personally witness heartache being healed, suppressed pain being released, self-esteem being restored and passions and desires been explored and fulfilled, how liberating this is in this world where so many people still continue to be so afraid of what others may think if they really became open and showed their true selves. My intention is that when you enter my space you can allow the outside world and all your responsibilities to simply disappear for the time you spend with me, having the permission to do just that can be incredibly liberating and extremely pleasurable!

We only have one life so why a live a life based on regret and missed opportunities? Make the most of your time on this planet and do not restrict your spirit, the calling of your soul or your true desires due to fear which is often completely unfounded. To feel and experience real pleasure is your birth right, we come into the world naked in our purest and most innocent form and all our organs are connected to the same physical body so why is there this stigma surrounding massage of the intimate areas when the reality is 80% of trauma in the body is stored here, by releasing it we are able to open up the channels to receive pleasure in all forms physically, emotionally and spiritually and who does not want that and yet we are often afraid of actually asking for what we really desire for fear of judgement.

Hence we suppress our true nature and without realizing it we slowly start to die inside because we are not being our true selves, we start to disconnect internally and this then can go on to effect all our relationships and decisions because we are no longer expressing what we truly feel in our hearts but what we feel others would want us to say and do, we place others peoples happiness above our own and then wonder why we never are able to feel truly fulfilled and satisfied. I meet people from all walks of life some of whom are incredibly successful financially and yet emotionally feel empty …this is because the key to happiness is not in financial gain or in others but within yourself when they discover this they leave a different person and for me my work may be over but their journey is only just beginning…

For this and so many other reasons my work is so incredibly satisfying but what continues to sadden me and what will always frustrate me is the realization that some people who are not as open or awakened will always be quick to judge or ridicule something that through either a lack of interest or self-confidence they have no knowledge or experience of. This continues to baffle me how someone can make a judgement or have a negative opinion without any actual facts to back it up. Any form of prejudice is always based from a lack of understanding and fear and yet if I could only make these same people see through my eyes what they could potentially discover for themselves, in this superficial world we live in where so many of us place so much importance on how popular we are, how many likes we have on our social media posts or posting constant selfies to gain attention when actually the true satisfaction and contentment lies within ourselves and has nothing to do with anyone else’s opinion!

I wonder how many of us can look in a mirror at our reflection and feel happy with the image that looks back at us, when our clothes come off we become vulnerable but also the most honest we will ever be as there is just us, no space for ego and that is another aspect I love about Tantra, that nudity is not viewed in a sexual way but as a beautiful and naturally organic state with no barriers and it is in this natural state that we all become equal regardless of our financial and personal situations at that moment we are all the same and how beautiful that is. We are all born with one body and it is so important to embrace who we are and accept ourselves without trying to become someone else.

My greatest wish is that one day this modern society we live in will no longer have the degree of prejudice it currently does and as a result this suppression that has the ability to affect so many people’s lives can be lifted and the ugly faces of Racism, Sexism, Classism, Homophobia, Nationalism, Religious Prejudice, Ageism and Xenophobia can cease to exist and with this let me include negativity surrounding Tantra because that in itself is a prejudice and when you look at it like that it puts a different spin on it doesn’t it?

Finally this is the only downside of this work I love …the judgement which is constant and at times never ending as it seems that despite all my study, dedication to training with integrity and sharing my story by being open and honest and trying my best to educate people about the real Tantra and the way I personally choose to practice there will always be suspicion surrounding my work and that breaks my heart. I wonder if those same people who comment negatively to others or make judgements realise how hurtful that is to the few authentic practitioners who continue to strive not only to help others but to be recognised and respected for the invaluable work they do.

So much confusion arises when certain individuals masquerade as being ‘Tantric Therapists’ these often young and attractive women will take advantage of men for solely their own financial gain by titillating their clients wearing provocative underwear and charging highly inflated prices offering ‘extra sexual services’ for an additional fee including sexual intercourse. This is not Tantra in any form, it is however infuriating to genuine therapists as it is not only hugely damaging to the name of Tantra and its principles but to the reputation of genuine practitioners also. Sex workers and sexual surrogates who openly advertise their services honestly are of course the exception because they offer no false pretences about who they are or what they are offering.

Tantra when practiced authentically and with the correct intention and respect is incredibly nurturing and sensual for both the therapist and the client, but there will always be boundaries in place and at no point should the sexual energy created be used to take advantage of others in any way.

To date I have had the pleasure of knowing and developing strong professional relationships with many wonderful men and women some of whom have become regular clients and there are numerous reasons why they cross my path or find me. Predominantly curiosity and the desire to explore their own sexuality are the main reasons, but many clients also come simply for a relief from their stressful jobs and lives to have that time where the focus is just on them and only their needs which is often badly needed and long overdue! Their life roles are often predominantly to give strength, lead and provide for others, they can feel exhausted and over whelmed from these responsibilities mentally, emotionally and physically, therefore it can be a huge relief when they are then encouraged to simply let go and enjoy their time with no expectation from them other to relax and receive.

It may also be that their partners are either deceased or estranged which can leave the other partner feeling isolated and deeply desiring that essential attention and care. It is also possible that through previous trauma of some kind, their sense of self and personal direction has been damaged and they are unable to either trust or form the connections they crave for. A Tantric massage not only offers a safe space to heal but also to build confidence once again so they can go on to find the relationships they deserve and will make them feel happy and fulfilled.

So you see there is so much more to this work than anyone could ever imagine, it has certainly taught me a lot about others as well as myself, every day is a learning curve. I never personally intended to follow the path I currently am but I’m so glad I found it, this work for me seems like second nature and it did from the moment I first discovered it, the sense of personal fulfilment I gain from making that all essential difference is why I will continue for as long as I am able.

I really hope that this has enlightened you a little about Tantra and I look forward to meeting you soon so I can share with you the beauty, sensuality, healing and pure joy that both motivates and inspires me every day. I can promise that it is an experience you will never forget….

Much love

Namaste, Elizabeth x